I’m not ready to be a father.

I don’t have the money to support a baby.

What are my rights and responsibilities as a father?

If your partner recently told you she’s pregnant, you’re likely filled with many overwhelming questions. No matter what you’re thinking and feeling right now, it’s understandable. But you can find answers and gain clarity, and we’re here to help.

At HopePlace Berryville, we’re here to give you the resources and information you need right now. Contact us today to learn about all the ways we’re here to help.

My Partner Told Me She’s Pregnant. What Do I Do Now?

Hearing the words “I’m pregnant” from your partner can feel terrifying. If you aren’t ready to be a parent, or if you don’t agree with your partner’s pregnancy decision, this is all understandable. But the most important thing right now is to remain calm and keep open communication with your partner.

No matter what you’re feeling right now, share those feelings with your partner—and give her the space to share her feelings as well. You both are likely overwhelmed and nervous about the next steps, but by coming together with empathy and open communication, you will help provide stability and encouragement for one another.

If your partner believes she’s pregnant, the most essential first step is to confirm the pregnancy with a lab-quality pregnancy test and a follow-up ultrasound. These tools will give you both the clarity you need right now, and it will also help reveal key information about the pregnancy to keep your partner safe.

At HopePlace Berryville, we offer free pregnancy testing and follow-up ultrasound referrals. Encourage your partner to schedule this free pregnancy confirmation appointment today.

What If My Partner and I Aren’t Together Anymore?

If you and your partner aren’t together right now, but you found out she’s pregnant, things probably feel really complicated right now. Even though you two aren’t together in a relationship, it’s still important to be there for her—which, in turn, is showing that you’re there for the pregnancy. 

While it can be hard to know how to be there for your partner when you’re no longer together, the following suggestions can help:

• Offer to attend pregnancy appointments
• Provide financial support to help your partner buy essential pregnancy and baby items (like vitamins, food, etc.)
• Help your ex-partner know that the decision about how to move forward is hers but that you’ll support her choice (if you don’t agree with her decision, it’s okay to share your feelings, but it’s important to do so gently without making her feel forced into what you want to happen)

We’re Here for You

At HopePlace Berryville, we understand what you’re going through. But you’re not in this alone. Contact us today to learn about all the ways we’re here to help.